For that reason, I would ask you not to say them but to seek a way that the two of you can begin a conversation about the point you have reached in your lives.
It is surely one of the most heartbreaking things a spouse can hear. To see the words in print must be shattering for you. Many take years to acknowledge that a love has died, some would never dare to say so. Putting it out there, even in the form of an email, means you have already set events into motion. The thought of starting out all over again paralyses me but I don't want to live the rest of my life like this either. Even if I talk about it I don't know what it is I want to say or do. I have tentatively tried to approach the situation with my wife but she doesn't seem to understand or want to talk about this. I thought maybe I was burnt out until we went on holidays together and discovered that it didn't improve things. To distract myself from this situation I have taken on more work projects and different physical activities. We don't seem to have anything in common and on the few occasions we have been out together on our own, conversation has dried up.
It's their absence from the house that has made me realise how little we share as a couple anymore. Our children, whom I adore, are now almost adults and are at home less and less.
I haven't fallen in love with anyone else, although I have been tempted to be unfaithful. There's no easy way to say this, but I think I have fallen out of love with my wife.